As a parent, it is our responsibility to let kids know that making fun of anyone or teasing them is not an acceptable behavior. We should try to bring the best behavior of our kid, and make them responsible citizen of our society.
Still many kids might face teasing in day to day life. Some kids might have physical deformity, which might make them a soft target by other kids. Children will need your support to deal with this situation.
Encourage your children to discuss with you if someone teases them. Discuss with their teachers. Kids should know that you are around and you care for them and understand their feelings.
Discuss with them various ways they can handle the situation (It will depend on the age of child):
- Try not to react or being visibly upset (if you are calm it puts off the teaser but if you are visible upset , it will encourage the teaser to do it again).
- Use a confident voice to tell the child who is making fun to stop.
- Ignore or calmly walk away from the teasing.
- Walk away and find a friend to be near.
- Tell a teacher or another adult.
Discuss with kids; which of the above may be the best option. (in a particular situation).
Tell them do not retaliate or fight back, it might worsen the situation.
Many schools now have programs to deal with teasing and bullying and promote positive relationships between kids. They have child counselor who might help in dealing with situations. If teasing tends to occur in specific settings (like at the bus stop or during recess), work with school personnel to make sure that an adult in charge responds to the situation when it happens.
If teasing becomes an ongoing issue or if you notice sudden changes that concern you (like your son doesn’t want to go to school, seems sad, or seems to have a hard time separating from you or family members), talk with a counselor or mental health professional for additional support.
Feel free to discuss, otherwise it might have adverse effect on the long term psychology of child.
Dr Rahul Varma